why go to mariage please iam read thje sta

From the back cover:

"Eminent child psychiatrist Dr. Sirgay Sanger offers a revolutionary parenting program that answers the question, dispels the guilt, and suggests positive solutions to the competing demands of work and motherhood. _The Woman Who Works, the Parent Who Cares_ demonstrates how the lifestyle of today's working woman can encourage the development of a more self-confident, independent socially skilled child...."

This book adds professional credibility to the excuses used by working mothers who claim to be "too busy" to nurture their own children. If you are a stay-at-home parent or a child advocate, this is a guilt-appeasing polemic which will make you angry. What exactly IS that hypothetical notion called "independence" and how does it help a child to be forced to navigate through his or her life alone? The author looks toward daycare providers and teachers as being "experts" in the lives of children. The role of parent is minimized.

On the other hand, if you are a working mother, this book offers practical suggestions for making the most of the time you spend with your children. It gives insight into the interaction of children with their teachers and daycare providers. In addition, there are some good ideas about father involvement, and valuable information about the development of the preschool age child.

This latest in a series of books by Mr.Rosemond is a bit disappointing, especially for long-time readers of his other books and columns. I find the re-run anecdotes and columns tedious, the writing a tad sophomoric. The anecdote of his "call of nature" in an Alabama school restroom was just one example, and one I would have liked to have been spared.

The topic of kids and violence is certainly one on the minds of most parents. And it is an easy read, and entertaining. I would have liked to have seen less personal anecdotes and more of the real research and studies that are out there; that he seemed to gloss over, in favor of levity.

The book does contain useful information, especially towards the end. I had the thought that if he BEGAN again, with the ending of this book to begin a new one and fleshed it out a bit more, it would have more of an impact. This is a good basic book, but I would have liked it to have been a bit more scholarly.

The mother of a 4 year old boy and infant daughter concerned about the level of violence in television programs and toys directed toward children, I bought Rosemond's "Raising a Nonviolent Child" to learn how to lessen the impact of such violence on my kids. Rosemond's book is written in an easy-to-read manner, but ends up long on chat (like an overly long column) and short on cites. Nevertheless, Rosemond's opinion on methods of parenting and discipline, as he has shown in other successful books like Parent Power, is worth something standing alone. An emphatic reminder that we, as parents, are the first line of defense against the violence marketed to children, Rosemond's book does a nice job discussing the importance of teaching children personal, task and social responsibility. His ideas regarding limitations to be set on video games, computer use and television are also quite helpful. One need be neither Judeo-Christian nor an arch conservative to see the value of some of Rosemond's views on parenting however, and it would have been nice not to have to wade through Rosemond's rather strident (and often offensively presented)political beliefs and his personal religious beliefs to get to his larger point regarding the benefits of authoritative, as opposed to authoritarian or permissive parenting. I would recommend people buy Parent Power, which covers much of the same ground and is available in paperback -- and skip this latest book which doesn't add much that is new to Rosemond's previous body of work.

"Data" is only as good as its control group or collector. Life experience *is* data, and as a parent, you will offer what *works for you* to other parents.

Like Mr. Rosemond, I usually offer "personal perspectives" in the first person, not because I'm so self-centered that I think my own experience is all that matters, but because it's *my* perspective, from my own experiences. I can't project how a person will handle any given situation, and as long as *I'm* separate from *you*, we'll never have identical perspectives. We will, however, have similar experiences from time to time. Just as something someone has said to me will help me wade through my own muddle, I hope that others can draw on my ponderings when they need it.

As for parenting books in general, I read them for guidelines, evaluate those guidelines and use them as I see fit. Although not all of us are biological parents, we are almost always entrusted with *someone's* children at *some* point in our lives, and I do recommend Rosemond's book for preparing for such times. His suggestions for re-empowering the mothers provide tools for setting and maintaining our own personal boundaries among "children" of all ages.

and the spanking debate IN THIS COUNTRY ( USA ) continues. I would like to point out a correction. 90% of parents in THIS country HAVE spanked. that doesn't mean 90% DO spank, and surely doesn't mean of all parents in the world. ( 10-15% in sweden still think spanking is sometimes necessary. This is a country where it is banned to spank. So obviously one of the countries is backwards...its the exact opposite over there ). 60% say they would not spank if there were alternatives in this country.
Obviously this book doesn't do those 60% any justice because it gives in to spanking. Sorry folks, kids are just too sensative for a parent to feel principled in ever hitting them. Don't even consider hitting after age 6. Spanking can be equated to rape for many individuals, as well. It is risky business.

Common Sense is not too common these days. Selfish passions are replacing non-violent intuitions. Just remember: a happy childhood lasts a lifetime.

Writers always seem to want to bash spanking, even though the research has never proven spanking is bad (90% of parents have spanked!). This book gives very good suggestions and I would recommend it to anyone who wants an unbiased discipline book.

The theme of this book is to point out that there are profound differences in "spanking" when it is done appropriately and what others refer to as "hitting." Unlike some other child psychologists who want to lump everything from spanking to murder into one category, Rosemund reveals the element that is being left out of the discipline equation--common sense. Experts tell parents that if they are intelligent, they don't need spanking to discipline their children--but intelligence also means being able to interject reason into the decision making process. The logic of the anti-spanking movement doesn't wash!

This text provides some good, basic information on gifted education and talks briefly about the needs in each curriculum area. It does not, however, provide very many specific ideas about content modification or differentiation. Other than a few passing references to technology, it is not substantially different than the 3rd edition.

This book was okay. It is layed out beautifully, but the information is very basic. There is nothing in this book that you can not pull off the web with minimal effort. I suggest another more comprehensive book rather than this one.

It's safe to say nobody's perfect. Not Jeffrey Kripal or his book, not even Ramakrishna. But in Kripal's obvious service of relativizing the one-sided treatment (mainly by Vivekenanda and other monks) of Ramakrishna's great power and energy, reader's should exercise some magnanimity towards the author. He did a lot of academic research that in effect exposed how spiritual organisations all over the world form their own limited political and cultural agendas.

Kripal took the controversial subject of tantra by the horns, explained it to westerners in terms that do not mask its sometimes wild erotic and earthy essence, and that is probably the book's most important contribution. He brings us closer to powerful Kali, in ways that the monks in an order cannot risk attempting. And I can imagine Hindus and yogis with a sense of cultural identity have been provoked by the irreverent young western (academic).

In a final analysis Kripal's Freudian speculations about Ramakrishna's sexuality, or his claim that Ramakrishna was unconscious of his own true nature, may be far-fetched or untrue. They may ultimately be more about the author's own subconscious, rather than the Paramahamsa's. But Kripal has partly jarred open a door that still needs further opening. Truth, said Ramakrishna, is the sadhana of our age. And if Kali's Child leads people to consider how an enlightened person looks at life, approaching as Ramakrishna did this great mystery in which we live and have our being - both as feminine and masculine - then it will have served a good purpose.

The "Kali's Child" betrays all the signs of a serious researcher and scholar who is apparently very cautious about the tentativeness of his thesis which is that Ramakrishna was an unconscious homosexual who later came to be conscious of his sexual orientation and this consciousness informed his spiritual realization. However, as one trudges along the long winding chapters through the author's excursus into cultural anthropology and psychoanalysis, and arrives at the concluding part of this impressive tome, one gets the distinct feeling that the author is no longer in the mode of a writer with scholarly reservation about the tentative nature of his interpretation, but is quite open and unequivocal about his enterprise of making a gay saint out of this 19th-century semi-literate misogynist but unmistakably heterosexual (and by the same token quite scared being so) Hindu male. Kripal overlooks the sain't penchant for female lure (to be discerned in the vernacular sources) as well his panic about heterosexual demands, due, most certainly, to his own psychosomatic problems in this regards. Kripal's book is highly provocative in the beginning and quite amusing in the end, but dubious in the middle. Unfortunately, it is in the middle that his protrayal of the Paramahamsa is located. When one looks at this protrait it one cannot fail to notice its resemblance to the oilpainting of the master by the Czech artist Frank Dvorak displayed at the Ramakrishna Vedanta Math founded by Swami Abhedananda in North Calcutta--very colorful and very Western!

Naturally, those in need to "worship" Ramakrishna (RK) as a "pure" saint will simply hate and slander this excellent publication of an honest and daring inquiry into the life and psychology of a celebrated icon of spirituality and religion. However, anyone not being a fundamentalist about the modern and decidedly Western dichotomy between body and spirit, sexual energy and religio - is provided here with unique insights into a psyche and mind torn apart by this very concept. The author not only unveils how RK struggles with his sexual preference for young men while being fully dedicated to an ancient and seductive Goddess, but also how he tries to combine libido-employing Tantra with libido-denying mainstream Hinduism. Truly a fascinating book that not only shows RK as a human being but which illustrates the damage that is being wrought in East and West by all systems that deny the natural and healthy union between spirituality and sexuality.

The picture of the pod is intriguing, that's why I bought the product for my son. However, the assembly is very difficult due to the paper weight being insufficient. The tabs are not strong enough to push through the slots and so they fold and come apart. The instructions are with a white model so they are difficult to understand. I needed to use lots of tape to keep this thing together.

I had to purchase this book for a university studio photography course...unfortunately, the instructor never even flipped through it. It is by far the WORST photography book, really the worst book I have ever purchased! There are typo's, the "example photos" and instruction sometime are not the same. The projects are lame and really teach nothing. I would not recommend this book under any circumstances...AVOID AT ALL COST!!! I believe the editor or copywriter or whomever read the book before final printing should be FIRED!