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"'Do you have a kiss for Grandpa?' Louie's mother asked."
"No kiss!"
"'Do you want to play ball?' Grandpa asked."
"No ball!"
"'Let's play marching band,' said Louie."
"I'm the leader. You follow me."
As you can see, Louie wants to be in charge. But it takes him a while to decide what he wants to do. Grandpa also has to stick up for himself during these unpleasant conflicts, such as when Louie almost runs him over.
Rather than suggesting specific activities, Grandpa learns to ask more generally. "Now what?" seems to work well.
After Grandpa has patiently done what Louie wanted to do (play marching band, and make a sand cake at the beach), Louie is willing to take on Grandpa's command. "Let's read."
As you can see, children who are feeling contrary like to disagree. You can get them to agree only after letting them establish control. Then, you should stop suggesting activities, and simply ask what's next. After rapport is established, you can simply indicate what you will do next when it is your turn to lead.
After Grandpa reads two books, Louie demands two more. Grandpa explains that he cannot. He has to go meet Grandma now.
"'Now do you have a kiss for Grandpa?' asked Louie's mother."
"One kiss!"
The two smile as the kiss is given.
Even normally easy children will have bad days. This book contains many useful examples and lessons. In my own case, I suggest that parents not push kissing. Some children just don't like to do it very much. It can also become a bone of contention. If you simply back off for a few days, the kisses will soon return.
Think, too, about how other adults and children feel when you bombard them with questions. You may have more success by following the examples here.
Communicate in ways that help people open up to you!
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