I was disappointed that this book was sold as a self-help book for adults instead of its true target audience which is adult women. They authors devote about 71 words in the preface to male survivors. I would recommend this book for women, but I would not recommend it for male survivors like myself. It made me feel as alone and unheard as when I started... I am quite angry at the lack of focus on male survivors and the idea that the authors readily admit their research has been restricted to females, but still sell the book as a panacea for both sexes. It has just reinforced the isolation I feel. There is a book by Mike Lew and it is written just for male survivors and it is not marketed it as anything else. I have not yet read it, but it is my next choice to read.

UPON READING THIS BOOK I WAS ABLE TO UNDERSTAND SOME OF THE ADULT PROBLEMS I WAS HAVING FROM INCEST. PREVIOUS TO READING THIS GUIDE I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND MY INABILITY TO SLEEP AT NIGHT, OR TO STAY FOCUSED ON TASKS,DEPRESSION. THIS BOOK HAS HELPED TO UNDERSTAND MANY EFFECTS I HAVE HAD AS AN ADULT BUT NEVER NEW COULD BE THE RESULT OF INCEST. IF YOU ARE AN INCEST SURVIVOR I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO YOU.

The author places too much emphasis on prayer as duty, rather than prayer as privilege. I don't recall Jesus ever emphasizing it as a duty, nor any of the apostles, though it's certainly something we need to do for our own spiritual health. The author also uses too many exclamation points to drive his views home, as if that makes the matter clear.

Secondly, the book said almost nothing about contemplative prayer or mystical experience. It only touched on it to indicate that this is the highest form of communion with God and to say that it deserved much more thorough study. Apparently, the author wasn't willing to give it that kind of study, even though he was writing a book on Christian meditation.

First let me say this: I commend anyone who puts out a book on this subject matter, it is brave, thoughtful, and honorable. It is a much needed genre and shouldn't be too strongly criticized.
That aside, one of the few things this book suceeded in doing was convincing me that sexual abuse has a detrimental effect on the person in their adult life, something I had no need to be convinced of. It also no doubt made the average survivor feel less alone. In addition, there was one wonderful chapter about how to protect one's own children from abuse.
It lacks practical use. Most of the survivors' resources (hotlines) in the back were disconnected or when actually put to use were run by characteristically undereducated people. There are no suggestions for prosecution that I recall, and virtually nada hardcore advice for dealing with the residual effects of this abuse.
Overall not worth buying unless you are just now becoming aware of your own abuse and need to overcome the feelings of shame and isolation, or you're coming to grips with the abuse of a loved one and you need to be educated on the emotional experience of said loved one.

Fans of Gullit will no doubt find this book interesting. I was just disappointed in this purchase.

This is a book written by someone who appears to be very close to both Ruud Gullit and his representatives and gives, what I think is a very one sided account of what happened during Gullit's reign at Newcastle. Had I known that, I never would have bought this book. I didn't want to read another "biography" from Harry Harris of someone who came close to leading a great club down to the First Division.