First published in 1973, the 1984 version I read is still very 70's. However, it's also very practical and frugal. If the 1987 version was actually a serious revision, I'd suggest it for people who can't get their minds around an out-of-date planner.

This book includes suggested themes to help pad your ceremony and reception when money can't, clever recipies (cheese and onion pie, a punch that reportedly tastes alcholic, etc.) and a general sense of fun that's missing from many modern planners.

Hunt around for it. Its refreshing.

In my situation, the truth about the affair came out slowly, horribly, over months and months. It included not only betrayal by my spouse, cold-hearted arrogance by the other adulterer, but the discovery of aiders and abettors who were 'supposed' long-term friends of the family. It was so hellish, that when I finally came out of fight or flight mode, settled enough to begin reading recovery books such as 'Repairing Your Marriage', the worst was over. What happened already happened.

This book has a lot of 'you must do this', and 'you must never do that' (while in the throes of it). I couldn't relate to the idea of a 'proper' way to conduct your self after being violently flayed open. Every situation is so very different. There is no real blanket advice. I just couldn't plug the rawness of what happened in my life into the 'clinical experiences', which this book is based upon, and end it all with meditations and visualizations. Couldn't get my teeth into it, even though I appreciated the work that went into creating this book.