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I normally won't read any book that gives me a numbered list of things I'm supposed to remember or incorporate into my life. Sam has a list of 16 qualities of love (if I recall correctly) and I stayed with him through them all. The simplicity of his approach and power of his writing make it work, e.g. the first quality of love Sam describes is Attention. And guess what? I realize on reflection how little attention I give to others in my life, and how little I get back. That is a good starting place for improving my capacity as a loving person and it is easy to remember. So typical of Sam's clarity and authenticity.
I agree with the earlier review that this book should be read in bits. It took me several months (and it is a small book). The richness and the depth of this book required that I frequently stop and reflect. Highly recommended.
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Keen realized the power of storytelling, not just in a mythological approach, but also in telling the stories of our own lives how we are all living the lives of the great heroes. "Your Mythic Journey" helps you to discover the story in your own life and understand it mythologically as well as practically. The book is not one to be read, but to be written. This is done through a series of writing and drawing exercises facilitated through a series of deep probing questions. These questions are designed to challenge yourself, your beliefs, your values and your identity where you plunge the depths of your unconscious and swim the currents of time past, present and future. When you finally come to the shores of waking reality, you soon have a new understanding of yourself and the world you live in.
There are a number of ways to utilize this book. The first is you can do it by yourself, and go through and answer the questions. The second is to do it with a group of friends, family or your lover. The latter approach can also be done on a silent level, where one reads the questions for all to answer, or you can read each other your answers, which I found adds a whole new dimension to the process. It can become very emotional for some, shameful for others, enlightening to most, and discouraging to few. Regardless of your response, no doubt it will be revealing. The trick is to be honest with yourself and not hide behind that social mask thinking people will look down on your for having "other" thoughts. When you do this in a group session, you realize your "other" thoughts are not so different.
The aim of "Your Mythic Journey" is to be revealing about yourself, but also to know and tell the story of your life. What Mr. Keen has always expressed in his lectures and readings is that people tend to get stuck on various stories and end up repeating them over and over like a broken record. He remarks this with the example of recovering alcoholics who continue to tell their story of being addicted and how they went to AA meetings for recovery. They go on telling the story to everyone as if they are always at a meeting. This book challenges those that are repeating stories to begin to tell new stories of their lives and experiences. We all have them it's just a matter of beginning to share them with others.
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You have to read it! You don't have to DO it, but you have to READ IT!
I learned about myself at a whole, new level. I found out about things within myself that I really knew nothing about.
The examples of others and their experiences were often so close to some of my own feelings in similar situations, that I kept getting the feeling that the book was written just for me, right now!
Shawn Honnick
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on the flying trapeze at the San Francisco School of Circus Arts. The
fact that he was the oldest student at the school did not deter Keen
from pursuing his "strange passion" (p. 15). "Over the
years," he observes," I have discovered that it is hazardous
to ignore passing fantasies and emerging passions. To begin with, in
the degree that I cease to pursue my deepest passions, I will
gradually be controlled by my deepest fears. When passion no longer
waters and nurtures the psyche, fears spring up like weeds on the
depleted soil of abandoned fields. I suspect the major cause of
depression and despair and the appetite for violence in modern life is
the result of the masses of people who are enslaved by an economic
order that rewards them for laboring at jobs that do not engage their
passion for creativity and meaning" (pp. 16-17).
Part memoir,
part metaphor, Keen's book is filled with daring leaps, midair turns,
somersaults, and catches. For Keen, the trapeze is a good teacher.
From his six-year love affair with the trapeze, he derives insights
into fear, trust, letting go, and what it means to live life
passionately. If we learn to live life as a "ten-ring
circus," he writes, in "a world ruled by enchantment--where
magic existed before morality, wonder before worship, pleasure before
piety, and amazement before practicality" (p. 24), then we will
be "transformed, changed back into children whose horizons are
open" (p. 25). "The Great Path is a spiral journey,"
Keen notes. "Every day we begin again, knowing that danger and
death may be lurking, that we will be fearful and will need to
cultivate courage. We will need to keep our balance and discern when
it is time to wait and when to act. We will take leaps of faith,
fall, and rise again. If we are diligent in our practice, there will
be unexpected moments of grace and joy and a gradual growth of mastery
in fashioning our lives into something of beauty"
(p. 241).
Keen's LEARNING TO FLY is inspirational and insightful.
Although reading it did not inspire me to attempt a triple somersault,
it did encourage me to find a flying trapeze in my own life, and then
to practice it, knowing that "practice is perfect"
(p. 237).
G. Merritt
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Maybe listening to the 2nd CD, music only, would be better.
The book has the spoken words in text form, and actually read better than they sounded.
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The book also posseses many other problems such as: 1)the author thinking that war can be eliminated. Such sentiment, while admirable, is naive and dangerous. Certain problems will exist as long as humanity exists. War is one of them as is crime. There will be evil people who will resort to war like Hitler, Pol Pot, etc. The author fails to take this into account just as a hypothetical person who believes crime can be eliminated fails to take into account Jeffrey Dahmer, Albert Fish, and John Wayne Gacy. 2) the author implies there is no difference between the Nazi Reich's army and the US army in Vietnam. Furthermore, the author calls the US's war in Vietnam "immoral". Such belief is inexcusable. The US was attempting to save South Vietnam from communist takeover and, after the US pulled out, millions of lives were lost to the communists. The author briefly mentions the deaths in Cambodia but apparently misses the connection between the US's "immoral" war and the keeping of those millions alive. Also inexcusable is the author not mentioning the thousands who died taking to rickety boats fleeing from North Vietnam and those who died in "reeducation camps". 3) the author denouncing the efforts against the USSR and Sandanista Nicaragua. In both cases, the US enmity that the author decries helped end both nations and bring about freedom at least more than existed before. Eastern Europe is free as is Nicaragua which repeatedly turned away commmunist candidates. 4) the author relies on high-sounding rhetoric that doesn't stand the test of reality such as war rarely solves conflict. Tell that to the city fathers of Carthage or Hiroshima.
This book's only bright spot is its reproducing of war propaganda, much of which has gone unseen since the time it was first used.
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It is divided into five sections: the first is on the making of a man, the emergence from the shadow of the mother; the second is on the rites of manhood, in which he discusses initiation, the warrior, work and sex; the third is on the measure of a man, where he speaks of images and exemplars; the fourth is called a primer for now and future heroes, where he talks about quests and homecomings; and the fifth is about men and women, love, marriage and intimacy - this section also includes a long series of self-help exercises.
Sam Keen is a regular contributor to the magazine Psychology Today, has run many workshops for men and women, and has put on television series, so this is an easy-to-read book, which communicates well. It is quite freewheeling and careless at times, and there are some errors of fact in it: Unlike Iron John, it is not the product of deep study, discussion and meditation on mythic themes. It makes a distinction between prophetic feminism and ideological feminism, lauding the former and putting down the latter, which not only includes the man-haters but also the goddess-worshippers. He does at least mention patriarchy, and seems to see that it is a problem.
But when it comes to the crucial questions of how men and women are going to change society and themselves, he skates all round the question of power as if it did not exist. He does not appear to have heard of Connell, or any of the sociologists in men's studies, who make it so clear that there is a problem of unequal social power, of unequal access to resources, of unequal participation in the great power issues of our time. And so in his discussion of men and women and their relationships it is all conducted at the level of adjustment and negotiation and fair fighting as if the ground were level and the fighting could be fair. He wants women to take responsibility for their part in the problem, as if it were merely a psychological problem which could be solved at that level. For example, in an apparently fair and balanced account of feminist demands, we get this: "A feminist vision demands sexual, artistic, economic, and political equality (Military?) It further demands that men assume an equal share in the private sphere - the creation of hearth and the rearing of children." (p196)
The insertion of that one word - military - shows that he is entertaining that favourite gibe of misogynist men, that women want everything except the hard part of being a man - going to war, fighting and perhaps being killed for one's country. But the facts are, if you compare the figures, that forty times as many women die in childbirth as men die in wars. The gibe about not wanting to go to war is just that - a gibe.
So in spite of all its apparent balance and reasonableness and genuinely interesting matter about men, and despite the very nice personal touches which appear throughout the book, this one also ultimately lets us down, if we want to understand what men are and what they have to do. We still have to go to the Connells, the Segals, the Kimmels, the Brods, the Hearns, and all those less glamorous people if we want to know what is really going on and what really needs to change.
It is must read for men as well as women who wish to achieve a more thoughtful understanding of men beyond the simplistic and often times inane drivel (mis-)represented by film and television.
Keen makes the argument that love is often misunderstood by those who claim to be in the know. Keen argues that love is not the same in all situations. Their are different types of love in different types of situations. Keen uses stories from his own life and the lives of others to demonstrate his thesis. The is the love one feels for their mate, their children, their friend, and their supreme being.
Keen's explanation of marriage is what stocks out most about this book. Keen dispells the myth of soul mates. A couple does not perefectly melt into each other but is able conform to each other and understand each other's needs. We all probably don't have perfect mates, but a number of mates could complement us well.
Many readers will be disappointed to find that this book is not really related to sex. Although sex is part of love, love is what makes life worth living. Sex without love lacks substance.