This book is interesting and important because I think a lot of people don't know, or have forgotten how strange things were back in the sixties. The author seldom analyzes or reflects on the past events from an adult perspective -- the memoir tends to be a reconstructed laundry list of things that happen. Yet I wonder how honest it is, in a way -- the author presents herself as a fearless, daring, self-preserving survivor -- I wonder if this is more how the adult would like to paint herself, rather than how she really was.
Am I the only one who thought that the mother, Veronica, was not only the most interesting character in the memoir, but perhaps the sanest? An early proponent of "tough love", survivor of abandonment in a previous, early marriage, Veronica has no intention of letting her out of control teenage girls upend the life she has struggled to bring to order. To me the girls' behavior has less to do with withheld love, than with a genetic similarity to their mother. Back in the fifties and sixties, the ideal mother was supposed to be self-sacrificing -- the girls' seem to resent her for putting her own needs first. Now women like Veronica are the norm. Quite honestly, she merely had a healthy ego -- I don't see much evidence of emotional abuse,and the parents seem quite generous, financially. After she committs the narrator to the state asylum -- which actually doesn't sound that bad (the girls aren't even drugged, as they would be today, no tales of abuse related) Veronica resourcefully hooks Maria up with book deal calling for poems from jaded teens, launching her literary career. She seems to be trying to do her best,in her own way.
The girls, on the other hand, come off as thwarted Daddy's girls, who would have liked to take their mother's place. All in all, I felt more for the parents than for anyone. What would anyone do with such wild, spoiled girls, in such a volatile social environment?
The author seems to have landed on her feet -- first of all, she had the presence of mind to make an early marriage to an Ivy League heir, then persevere with her creative dreams. The "lost" sister Karen -- I'm sorry, but she seems to have chosen her fate. She seems to glory in her slumming, and by the book's end, seems to resent her younger sister's accomplishments. So many people come into the world with worse families and backgrounds -- to me, Karen is more a casualty of the sixties and her own bad choices than anything else.
Another thing that bothered me -- the author seems to resent that the mother is using the rest of her money on a posh retirement home. Well, if you'd wanted Daddy to leave something to you, you should have had a word with him before. The girls seem to resent their mothers' very existence.
This is an odd book. The author seems to want to elevate Karen and hold the mother up for critique, yet manages to do the opposite, at least to this reader.
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List price: $24.95 (that's 30% off!)