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Putting the Seven Habits to work requires commitment and patience. In my personal life, I have always had to work very hard to choose my response, instead of just snapping at the other person if they did not agree with me.
I find many of these stories interesting. However I also find that this book is not essential to following the Seven Habits. The best use of this book is if you are skeptical about the Seven Habits, then you can read it so that you get proof it works. Then you can go to the main book.
This said, I believe that Stephen Covey must get off the Seven Habits bandwagon. His first work was a masterpiece that I continue to read and re-read. Subsequent derivative works have not achieved the greatness of the first, and he is in real risk of diluting the Seven Habits franchise if he goes on and on. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is a completed work. The brilliant thinking and concepts that produced it do not need a book every year to keep them going.
I also believe that the observance of the Seven Habits are a necessary condition for true success but not a sufficient condition. It would be enlightening to see Dr. Covey explore other essential areas of improvement in self, family and business without necessarily being locked in to the Seven Habits. I want to know if there are habits eight, nine and ten. I suspect there are, though I don't know what they are.
It's time for a paradigm shift, Dr. Covey.
This is a must read for students of Covey.
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So, if you are Mormon, you may appreciate this book because it lends toward Mormon exclusivity and a sense of superiority. But no one else would find this book at all beneficial.
But even for Mormons, there are a lot of problems in this book, which I hope to outline below. Most of them are contradictions or instructions by Covey on how to live your life that are not specified within Mormon dogma.
The initial and major contradiction begins on page 13, "But whenever a person has a new world view or a new paradigm, he feels both exhilarated and humbled by it. He feels that the former view was not so much wrong as partial, as if he had been observing with restricted vision. He is exhilarated because in making the shift he has gained not simply more knowledge but a whole new way of knowing. He is humbled because he knows that improvements in his world view still will and must take place." This idea of changing paradigms is then followed by Covey's absolutist view on the very same page, "As we will see throughout the rest of this book, believing is seeing, Believing in the Creator of the territory [God or Christ] as one who has complete integrity, power, and love opens up to us the most accurate map of the territory, enabling us to see and understand it better." He is referring here to the 'perfect' map or Mormonism.
Four pages later he condemns intellectuality, saying, "I am persuaded that intellectual pride is more basic and serious than either social or material pride." He then continues by saying that all of the great scientists of our time were wrong because they did not have 'the Lord's map'.
On page 32 he condemns TV watching, but this would obviously not apply to General Conference and Mormon broadcasts I'm sure. And one page later offers the key to making life a success - work.
A lot of the claims that Covey makes are also based strictly on anecdotal experiences rather than scientific analysis or data. (see p. 64 for example)
There is another great line that illustrates the perspective Covey is taking, "The world generally regards this [achieving perfection] as impossible, but the world is wrong." (p. 78) Throughout you get the impression that this is what Covey really does think, that the world is wrong, that science is wrong.
On p. 88 he teaches that unconditional love exists and that it is a necessary condition to a successful marriage; I don't agree with the idea of unconditional love.
Another major problem with the book is that he repeats himself over and over again. When he talks about all of the things people should not have as the center of their life he repeats it for a couple hundred pages with numerous charts and diagrams as well. Does he really think that people need to hear it that many times to understand it?
In a sense he turns this into the 'Mormon book of everything'. He talks about just about everything Mormons should be doing, could be doing and need to be doing to be healthy, happy, and good Mormons.
On page 162 he talks about how Mormon families should put on an image for everyone else that everything is good in their home, regardless of how bad things really are.
Page 164 he encourages people to live a deluded life, focusing on how they think God would want them to be rather than on hw they should live in a social world.
But perhaps the biggest problem I had with his ideas and teachings is that he actually condones the guilt that religion causes in people's lives. He considers it a positive thing because it encourages people to behave in accordance with church teachings. What he doesn't mention is that guilt is a form of social control and that religion teaches you what you should feel guilty about and then offers a cure for that guilt. It is a horrible system of self-perpetuation employed by religions. (p. 248)
In the end, his basic idea of having a secure center seems to be a good one, assuming that there is something in life that is secure. Ironically not even the doctrines of the Mormon church are secure, so relying upon that for a sense of security seems like a poor idea just as much as relying on any of the other things Covey claims are bad things to focus on (family, friends, leadership, etc.).
The book, as I said, may be a good idea for Mormons that enjoy feeling guilty and want to participate in that form of social control, but anyone else should avoid this book. It teaches a Mormoncentric view of the world and condemns everyone else. I would consider it psychologically unhealthy.
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