For anyone thinking about adopting an older child, this book is a must read but put it LAST on your list. If I had read it first, I probably would have dropped the idea altogether. It is full of frightenning examples of how adopting an older child can lead you and your family down a path to ruin. It does give techniques to deal with and hopefully change some of the disturbing behaviors you may encounter. Most important, it tells you what issues a child has that may lead him to these behaviors.

It will arm you with knowledge needed so when you're given a referral, you'll have a much better chance of choosing a child who will grow and thrive in your family instead of tear it apart. There are so many kids waiting for adoption that CANNOT be saved no matter how you try. You owe it to yourself and your family to read this book. It can help you make the right choice that could literally save your lives.

This book is an excellent resource for both parents and direct care-givers. Although a lot of space is given to adoption and foster care concerns, it is helpful for anyone dealing with reactive attachment disorder or children who are not adopted but have attachment issues. Ann Kelley, LCSW, Tulsa Boys Home.

Here is a book that shows some of the difficult sides of adoption, and yet offers MUCH hope for those who love and parent them. It is honest, and thoughtfully written, with practical advice and guidance.

As a Love and Logic instructor, a parent and school counselor, I am familiar with many of the L&L tapes and concepts. Because of this, it is unusual to have an "ah-hah" moment such as the one I had listening to "Homework Battles." As parents and educators, our dream is to find a way for our kids to do homework for their own benefit, and hopefully take ownership for grades, missing or late assignments, and to enjoy the benefits and fun of school. In an enjoyable and nonjudgemental format, the authors point out how parents can do the exact wrong things for the right reasons, making homework and grades into an adolescent power struggle or a drudgery by forcing our value systems and expectations down our child's throat at the exact time they are rejecting our values out of hand. The authors also point out how we, as parents, do not receive report cards in regards to our parenting skills, so we take ownership of our child's performance at school as a close surrogate. Bad idea, and fundementally counter-productive.

This tape helps parents focus on a child's strengths, thereby building self-esteem and a good self-concept, through placing ownership of the grades squarely on their shoulders. All the pizzaz is placed on the positives while only gently touching upon the student's weaknesses. The authors compare this with having your spouse review your output during your day when all you want is to come home to a safe, supportive house. Even with the spouses best intentions, how long would you stay married to someone who only concentrated upon your weaknesses?

Get the tape...it has changed how I work with parents, students, and my own children! It works, and it makes the whole process much more fun for the parent.

This tape was my first introduction to the Love & Logic program and now I'm hooked on the idea! The ideas presented in the tape are just what I needed to give me the freedom from my teenager's homework and turning the responsibility back to him! It all makes so much sense! Most parent's probably need to learn from these tapes that our responsibility to our children is to let them learn to take responsibility for their actions!! Excellent tape and they're fun to listen to!

My husband was catching a plane and I stuck it in his brief case. I had been desperate to just address some parenting issues in our family. I wanted him to be empowered to make some changes!!! The book has broken down the main parenting concepts from Love & Logic into short 2-3 page chapters. After his trip my husband came home to correct certain things I was doing. He changed his approach with our son to focus on his strengths rather than his weakness. It is a very insightful book helping you understand how to raise children.

The authors guide parents through the necessary steps teens take while learning to become adults by making choices, good and bad. They give real life examples of situations that cause parents a great deal of emotional stress and many excellent ways respond that allow you to stick to your standards, but in such a way without adding velocity to a viscous cycle. This book really helped me stand back, stay objective, and keep a proper perspective while loving and teaching my teen. I highly recommend this book for any parent struggling with any type of negative teenage behavior.

This is an excellent easy to read and practical guide for all parents. I have attended workshops by Jim Fay and I still refer back to this book all of the time. Everyone I have recomended it to loves it! One of the best parenting resources on the market today. Well worth the money, and it makes a great book to give as gift .

Whether you have troubled teens, average teens, or great teens, this book provides a plethora of answers for parents with questions about being the best parent they can be. The love and logic program teaches parents how to love their child by taking care of themselves and by allowing their teen to suffer real world consequences. The book is half instruction and half ideas and suggestions for resolving common teen problems such as parties, friends, drugs, sex, backtalking, etc. I'm going to make it part of my permanent library.

This approach to parenting children is very effective for the parent who has the experiences and/or intelligence to gain control over their own emotions. The principles found in the Love and Logic series are excellent for raising responsible children in an irresponsible society. The promotion of spanking as a technique has been reversed by the Love and Logic Institute since this book was written - and that is good. The pearls offer practical interventions to common parenting challenges. However, if you are a parent who does not have the time or ability to think and fit the discipline to the personality of your child - this book could frustrate you. Many parents are looking for a script to follow throughout the life of their child. This text gives examples of principles to use. I am a marriage and family psychologist and recommend this book often. It is a great resource for most parents.

This book provides sound parenting philosophy and easy to use guidelines to apply it. As a teacher, it is clear to me which students have been raised with loving and logical parents. So many parents confuse love with protection. Parenting with love and logic means allowing your kids to make choices ... and sometimes mistakes. Some may object to the "Basic German Shepard" tactics or the idea that claims that spanking is sometimes alright. Use what you wish from the book. I have never spanked my child, nor do I order him around like a dog. To avoid a power struggle with my son who didn't want to put on his clothes or coat for a 5 minute ride home from my sister's house, I used Love and Logic principles. On a cold January evening in Michigan I carried him to the car in his underwear. Moments later, he said, "I'm cold." I simply kept driving and said, ... Perhaps next time you will make a different choice?" A natural instinct would be to cover him up and protect him from the cold. He was not injured in any way. By sticking to the principle, however, he learned two very important lessons: 1) mom is not kidding around, and 2) it's smart to wear your clothes and a coat. Since that evening, we have not struggled to get dressed. Try it!

Love and Logic is a great tool! I have seen Jim Fay in person. He is a wise and humorous man. The combination of information provided in this parenting book is extremely useful. Some of the methods used are simply replacing commonly used phrases : "You are not going anywhere until your room is clean!" to a phrase such as, "Anyone that has clean room is welcome to play outside." The method also emphasizes the parent allowing the child to begin making choices from a young age. The parent offers different choices for their child, allowing the child to have the opportunity of taking part in the decision making process.

Do not be mislead into thinking this is soft-parenting. Fay and Cline also believe that children must have boundaries and consequences for their actions. They suggest natural consequences, one in the consequence is related to the choice that the child made. The book gives various scenarios of logical consequences.

I borrowed the book from a friend, and then purchased the audio-book. I enjoyed the audio-book although there are times that the delivery of the dialogue in the first tape seems patronizing. Don't be turned off by the delivery of that first tape! The book is full fantastic suggestions that make life easier.

If you have the opportunity to see Jim or Charles Fay in person, GO! They are not patronizing at all. Jim Fay will have you laughing so much at times, and you leave feeling extremely energized.

This cassette seems mostly to reiterate the strategies in the Parenting with Love and Logic book. It gave minimum strategies and often made fun of common parenting mistakes. This cassette could be quite insulting if you have a difficult toddler.

Evaluate your child's personality before buying this. I have heard that it works like a charm for other kids, but my daughter is just too active and direct intervention works better than time-outs. I do like its main message--don't let your kids walk all over you and don't be afraid to discipline (positively, not spanking). If you feel your child will respond to time-outs, this is a good resource. However, I found the Positive Discipline series to be more effective for my child.

This audio cassette is a wonderful, no-nonsense approach to child-rearing. The narrators have soothing, pleasant voices and know what they are talking about. There is no better way to deal with children than this way: I have 2 children that strike awe in others because of how well-behaved they are (ages 3 years and 16 months). I also have a 14 year old step-daughter who is wonderful and mindful, and who has been raised the "love and logic" way. The only way you are going to be "insulted" by this audio cassette (as another reviewer implied) is if you recognize yourself in the anecdotes and are defensive about it. If this is so, perhaps some therapy of your own will help you learn why you waste energy being defensive of parenting practices that don't work, instead of being open enough to try common-sense stategies that will help you be the best parent you can be.

This is a very readable book for parents and clinicians. Clearly outlines what attachment disorder is and describes holding therapy. Cline speaks eloquently of the societal issues that combine to result in children who are seriously disturbed. Challenges treament providers to evaluate current methodology that is often ineffective with these children. Provides information about treatment that is effective with many seriously disturbed children. First printed in 1995, it is timely reading given our nation's current epidemic of violent, conscienceless children and adults.

I hated how the authors condemned babies who are attached to their parents. They seem to think that it is abnormal for babies to prefer the company of their parents to that of strangers.
I do like that they don't condone spanking or crying it out.

I was very disappointed after reading this book and felt obligated to write a negative review since there are alreay so many other great reviews out here. I first read the borrowed book "Parenting with love and logic, teaching children responsibilities" by Jim Fay and Foster Cline, which was first published in 1990 and now is in 10th edition. I loved that book, therefore I searched in Amazon.com, wanting to buy one for myself. I then came across this one. Since I have two kids under the age of 2, I thought this book might be more suitable on offering techniques specific for younger children, so I ordered one.
After finishing the entire book, I felt I wasted my money. It failed my expectation totally. Why?
1. This book offers nothing new, with much less content compared to its 'parent' book, the one I mentioned by Jim and Foster.
2. It's poorly designed and laid out in content. If you select any three pages from the entire book and read them, you will find the content of each page exactly talks about the same thing. Basically, you will find the author repeating the same words again and again, not necessarily for the purpose of emphasizing. It's simply very boring and repetitive. I would say that the intention of such repetition was for increasing its word count, but that would be too mean.
3. Don't be fooled, Jim Fay is NOT the first author, his son Charles is.
4. This is another typical money making driven scheme to profit off the successful original -- After making a great one, having a bunch of not so good, or even [bad] ones following in the same series.
5. If you still want to choose from "Love and Logic" series, get the original one I mentioned earlier. That's all you need ,and I personally don't think you need to buy any other one in this series.

I completely disagree with the reviewer who asserted that the authors of the early childhood book were condemning the parent-child bond. To the contrary, that relationship is key to the successful implementation of love & logic. What the authors do assert is that it is not the parents job to solve their childrens problems, rather, they act as consultants and guides, providing opportunities for children to make safe mistakes and good choices, and letting their children bear the burden of their consequences while keeping the loving relationship intact.

I found this book poorly organised, and hard to read. It consists of a series of "feel good" anecdotes about how the author's techniques could supposedly assist ADHD children. I got the impression that some of the material was simply rehashed from other publications and in fact, the same text is repeated in several places throughout the book. There is no discussion of any medical or psychological detail that would help parents assess their child's situation. I would keep looking if you are trying to educate yourself further on this tricky subject.

I really don't know how anybody who could rate this item with anything other than 5 stars. The book is for all parents and anyone who works with kids. The principles are practical and wise and I know they work. I plan to buy all the books by these guys!

Meeting the Challenge provides information that every parentandeducator needs in the modern world. Children with attention orbehavior problems can succeed with the help of firm ,loving parents and teachers. This book shows us how with an understandable ten step program for home and an equally straightforward program for school. Every parent with young kids should have this book.

I found it difficult to listen to this tape all the way through. Most of the time you just want to say "Get real!!" I did get one or two good ideas from it although I changed their idea to fit into my family better. If you're desperate, give it a try. Maybe it will get the creative juices flowing enough to give you your own techniques for getting your kids to listen and DO what you ask.

This audiotape brings to light many tips for handling division of responsibilities to the family. It's format is in radio talk show format which is easy to listen to.

I gained a lot of helpful hints on how to deal with my preteen. I recommend this tape.