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Overall a very useful guide.
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West covers the same territory that other folks from John Gray to Barbara DeAngelis have tackled much more famously and profitably since. Despite the awful title and some datedness, she still does it better than they, partly because her point of view is more sophisticated to begin with and it doesn't assume the sexes should necessarily accept themselves (as opposed to each other) as we are.
A representative passage: "If I have dwelt at some length on the subject of marriage, I did not mean to suggest that cohabitation is indeed 'the answer,' or that the differences outweigh the similarities. People who congratulate themselves on having escaped the legal trap do not necessarily escape the psychological consequences of marriage. For when we form a pair bond -- meaning we share sex, affection, and domicile with another person, whether of the same or the opposite sex -- we tend to relate the arrangement to the only model we know: the examples and experiences we've been exposed to are those of marriage -- in particular, the marriage of our parents. The pull is always toward following a familiar pattern, and, since we usually follow the path of least resistance (which generally turns out to be the toughest), we may well wind up living by the hidden clauses of the contract we never signed."
Most amusing and provoking, perhaps, is the chapter devoted to sexual friendships (something Letty Cottin Pogrebin pretty much ruled out some years later in _Among Friends : Who We Like, Why We Like Them, and What We Do With Them_), for whose participants she apologetically can find no better term than the semi-facetious "balling buddies."
This book is a quirky personal examination of the issues, not a generally prescriptive discussion of "how we ought to be," and for that reason is a quiet winner.
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