Kate Wallace is a poet, a visionary, and a uniquely talented writer! As a seeker of God and His crazy ways, Kate does a masterful job of sharing her journey from highly skilled professional to dazed mother of three. She shares intimately her struggles with her various roles and calls. The reader laughs and cries as Kate paints fabulous word pictures of the pulls inherent in the life of a multi-talented, multi-optioned woman. The ups and downs, the joys and frustrations are artfully and beautifully addressed. This book should be read by every woman and used in a variety of discussion settings. Get two copies - one for yourself and one for someone you love.

It is a rare book that manages to be intellectually stimulating and spiritually satisfying. This is one of those books. Wallace occasionally goes almost to the edge of being too academic or too religious, but redeems herself by meaningful, thought-provoking ideas about what it really means to be sexually faithful: to love one another as whole human beings, to never treat anyone as a commodity to be used, to teach kids about ethics and friendship rather than simply telling them "you'll get AIDS" or "you'll go to hell." These are some of the ideas that give true meaning and value and purpose to our lives, far beyond mere pleasure or avoidance of pain. Wallace manages to stay out of the mainstream without actually attacking it. Read this book if you long to believe that monogamy is the way to go and need some intelligent, loving reasons to back up your opinion.

I was assigned this book to read, and wasn't looking forward to it because the I thought it sounded kind of dull or heady. WAS I WRONG! My personal copy is underlined and there are notes everywhere. I bought 7 other copies to give to friends and family.
Anyone who has children, or who works with children or teens, should read this book. The author shares her wisdom about sex education really needing to be about so much more than sex: friendship, intimacy, committment, many things we can talk about when our children are very young, and then they will be ready to understand a sexual relationship as something that is bigger than just sex.

This is, without question, the most wonderful book on the subject I've ever read. She is so eloquent in her prose and so lucid in her pattern of thought that I was, quite honestly, taken totally by surprise.

I, coming from a failed union, had embraced an 'open marriage' with a fervor. This book has been the only one to actually explain why and how my old life was a dead end.

While she does mention God every now and then, most of the comments are toward the end of the book -- long after the punchy arguments you're looking for are made. Any faith-based writing on her part is totally set aside. In other words, you can fully skip over it if you like. The important points totally stand on their own, without mention of religion.

I had read "Passionate Marriage" by David Schnarch -- long considered to be the Bible on the subject of passion and marriage. I hated it. It didn't speak to me. Where that book has the reader listening to other people's psychological problems and forcing you to try and extrapilate the point, "For Fidelity" tells you the point straight out: no allegory, no BS.

The author has a Ph.D (I think in English) -- and man does it show in the writing of the book.