If your marriage is on the rocks, you must buy this book. I bought two of them. One for myself and one for my wife.

I have to confess, I didn't read the book, I hardly ever do. but my wife read it to me. Almost the whole thing one thought at a time. And I must say it pleasantly hit me between the eyes and the sheets. My wife was laughing around the house for a week. You know it didn't hurt too bad either and helped to be reminded about the purpose of our differences.

Mr. Snyder has written in a style that includes sarcasm and exageration. This is aimed to be humor, but I find makes it difficult to perceive what the true point really is. He includes many personal experiences that do not correlate his main points and seem often foolish.

His thoughts are good and well presented. You will be challenged by what you are asked to do. But the outcome will be well worth the efforts. Let's face it gentlemen we need to as the Bible teaches die to self and become a servant leader to our wives...The tapes do not have all that the book has but they are still good.

The premise of this book is that if you want a successful marriage, you should love your wife as Christ loved the church. As the author points out on page 233, "If we nourish and cherish [our wives] as the Bible tells us to, they grow and blossom and bloom and get perfume all over us. They radiate back to us exactly what we are giving them. If you see a happy wife, you can assume the husband is doing a good job of cherishing her. If you see a sad wife, you can bet the husband's priorites are out of whack and he is failing to provide the nurture she needs." My daughter is getting married this summer, and I intend to give the bride and groom two books. One will be Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" which should be read by both. The other will be this one, which is intended for the husband. Unlike the first reviewer, I found this book to be a very worthwhile read, and I probably will also give copies to the husbands of a number of couples I know who are struggling in their marriage. Whether you need to develop a new approach to relating to your wife or would just like to reinforce the good habits you already have, I think you will find this book of value.

You can get this book "used" from Amazon ...This is more of a "meet the Snyders" than anything else. He lists all his personality quirks, and she inserts hers. And this format was just a little bit too much, and after awhile you forget who is speaking, Chuck or Barb. Maybe this has some value, but the way Chuck describes himself is more a stereotype male and she a stereotype female, especially as it relates to shopping, sports, and all that other stuff which makes us all laugh. As a man, I couldn't relate to Chuck, and he displayed an arrogance of sorts which suggested that most men were like him, and most women were like her...

Incompatibility: isn't about why it won't work. It's why it CAN work. With the long marriage being the "number-one status symbol in America today" (Watts Wacker, futurist cited in FAST COMPANY magazine, Dec-Jan '97), Snyder provides a base from which you can draw appreciation for your spouse or future spouse when questions have begun to creep into the relationship. And he's REAL about it - no theoretical classroom hypotheses, but true experiences that you can identify with and immediately begin to apply. Worth the investment; worth the time