This is the best book I have read to explain the way homosexual people really are. Everyone, including homosexuls, is homophobic to some extent, so that TALKING about what it is like to be gay is just not done. The isolation this causes leads to the despair that so many gay people feel, and the hostility of so many straights. These 70 people are real - just like us, and the interviews are so well edited that the voices are authentic. The stories talk about when each interviewee first realized they were "different", how they struggled to be "normal", and how they found happiness. If you are interested in better understanding how you feel about sexuality - your own, and/or that of a gay person, read this book. Even more important, if you believe that there is much more to a person's identity than his or her sexuality, this book will affirm and support you.