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In Never Ask Permission, Mary Buford Hitz tackles this daunting task head on, the subject of this memoir being her mother, Elizabeth Scott Bocock or, as she often signed herself, ESB. Rather than take a sequential, "I-am-born" approach, the author chooses to devote separate chapters to different aspects of her mother's personality, each chapter a self-contained essay, overflowing with anecdotes, quotes, and, perhaps most illuminating of all, snippets of ESB's autobiographical sketches. (Most of these autobiographical excerpts, by the way, come from essays ESB wrote during her college years, which began after her sixty-seventh birthday.) Just as a puzzle becomes a picture as each piece falls into place, so does ESB's complex character come into focus, chapter by chapter, with a poignant, but essential clue to this charming, but undeniably complex Virginian saved until the very end.
Many CEO's could learn from ESB's capacity to set goals and achieve them. As ESB emerges from the pages of this lovingly crafted book, the reader meets a determined and creative thinker who probably would not have been impressed with "left-brain/right-brain, lateral thinking, creative problem-solving, if you aren't part of the solution, you're part of the problem" lingo, but who embodied the positive persona such jargon seeks to describe. With one foot firmly planted in late Victorian America and the other constantly, restlessly forcing her into the future, she was a visionary with an astonishing ability to get things done.
If you enjoy biography, if you are fascinated by Virginia, if you want some side-splitting laughs, or if you are just interested in a good read, this is the book for you.
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The story is melodramatic and awkward at parts, but ultimately it is riveting. As an adolescent, Ada is in love with a young man, Ralph, but loses him to a rich, selfish girl, Janet, who claims Ralph got her pregnant. Janet and Ralph divorce, and Ada and Ralph marry following World War I (and following a torrid two day affair in the woods which is overly-romantically described to this reader, possibly purposefully so). Ralph is disillusioned after the War and the family (Ralph, Ada, their son, John, and an aunt) struggle on through the bubble of prosperity following the War and through the Depression. The scenes of the Depression are wonderfully written.
The theme of the book is the search for happiness and how it is looked for in the wrong places through materialism, superficiality, and the quest for popular approval. There is a strong spiritual, religious theme throughout the book, particularly as it involves the life of John Fincastle.
People look for happiness but don't know how to find it within themselves. Ada perseveres through trouble in her marriage and realizes a subdued but important vision of inner peace. The line "May all beings be free from suffering" is repeated several times during the last section of the book. It is quoted by John Fincastle and is perhaps the moral of the book. The phrase (which is not clearly attributed) is derived from the basic lovinkindness meditation of Buddhism -- a fact John Fincastle (who shows in the book his familarity with Buddhism) would have known. Interesting to see a reflection of the Buddhist tradition in what for me was an unexpected source.
This is a powerful, thoughtful book entitled to its place in American literature.
The title refers to the vein of iron within the characters, especially the women, which keeps them going throughout adversity as they struggle through their personal challenges as well as the social changes creating upheaval around them. The love of Ada's life, Ralph McBride, is stolen by the trickery of a supposed best friend. He eventually does come back to her as a soldier off to fight in the World War and their two-day illicit romance results in a pregnancy, which alienates her from her beloved Grandmother. Later, after her lover comes back from war, disillusioned by his experiences on the battlefield, their marriage is marked with more disappointment and struggle as they leave their beloved mountain home and move to a large town. When the Depression hits, and her husband loses his job, she finds work selling gloves in a shop where her wages keep getting reduced and the family struggles to put food on the table. There's always compassion though for those even less fortunate and we get to know their small community of neighbors.
There were a lot of themes going on at once in spite of the simplicity of the words. Yet the story itself was so engaging that I was reading it on the bus one day and went two stops past my usual stop. The sense of place is dominant throughout and I was transported into the author's world. It was not always a pleasant place to be, especially during those Depression years, but I totally related to it all, and admire the "vein of iron" in the author, as well as in her characters. Recommended.
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