Hola! tengo 34 años y tengo un novio de 40 años tal y como lo soñé. Estoy cumpliendo las reglas y funcionan él está muy enamorado dice que éste año 2000 nos casaremos! realmente funcionan. Sí sé que cuesta y ? realmente se valora más lo que cuesta,lo mejor es que habrá boda vale la pena NO?

Antes de conocer este libro rompí las reglas: aunque no en sexo!! Sueño con casarme por la iglesia. Interesante pónganlo en práctica. Estoy segura al fín me casaré. Tengo 34 años, soltera, vivo en El Salvador un país donde hay pocos solteros arriba de 35 a 40 años. Un libro fascinante todo cambió en mi vida !! Léanlo!

I am a 40 year old male,that divorced and am now married to the love of my life and BEST FRIEND.I feel that the Rules 2 may offer some comfort and direction to woman that have been burned,however it may lead to one holding back love and emotion in a relationship. The bottomline is, that in order to get a lot out of a relationship,a person has to put a lot in,no matter if they are male or female.One can't develop full trust and friendship with role and game playing.I simply say this to all ladies: "Don't expect to make or expect major changes in a guy.Simply come as you are to the relationship,be YOUR best,not anyone elses and follow your heart and don't force the thing to happen.The ideal guy will learn to appreciate you for who you are ,if he really loves you.STOP being obssessed with worry about how big your butt looks in pants and enjoy life.A guy that you have to use these or any RULES on is not worth your time!"Without being crude ,I know that in my case ,my wife is the one that has the higher sex drive and enjoys sex,it is a myth to think that only men want sex on a date.While I teach chemistry and physics for a living,I am quite certain that there are no balanced equations or RULES for falling in love.

I've read both books I and II. Like everyone else I thought it was ridiculous and manipulative. I realized I was skeptical because I didn't want to find out that what Sherrie and Ellen wrote was the truth! What about you why are so you skeptical?? Could it be you're afraid to find out the truth?? It wasn't til I actually started DOING The Rules (as with anything, don't knock it til you try it) that this book is really about helping a woman get what she feels she truly deserves. Most women opt for less, because they are afraid to want more. Ask yourself, what's makes you feel better: When you chase a man or when he chases you?? All I have to say is I feel sorry for all those anti-Rules women out there: You're self-esteem must be pretty low and have no confidence to believe that the man you are dating will deliver, and you have to resort to "being upfront" (aka "demand") what you need, not to mention settling for less because you are too afraid to be alone for awhile. All I have to say is better you than me to be stuck with a loser and/or in an unhealthy relationship. The Rules saved me!

As someone who considers herself a highly intelligent, well-educated individual, I originally turned up my nose at these "manipulative" Rules, claiming, after having read the first book, that they would only work on a certain, superficial type of man. But let me tell you what I've discovered - acting as if you like yourself and your life and that you are just as happy without a man as with one is the only way to ever really find happiness *with* one! Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have been slammed for writing these books, when in actuality the message they are trying to get across is: "stop being so pathetic, stop sitting around daydreaming about how some guy will make your life perfect, because when you think that way, you're *bound* to end up looking needy and desperate!" I think the reason these books offended so many "feminists" is because even feminists act this way! Even the most intelligent, intellectual, well-educated women in the world doodle their first name with the dream guy's last name, daydream about their wedding, etc...yet hate it about themselves. The bottom line is, don't knock "The Rules" books just because they appear calculating and manipulative. Granted, there are brainless bimbos out there who follow the book to the letter without ever getting the greater message, whose only goal is getting a rich husband. But these books are also great "how-to" guides for those of us who *know* we have to stop being doormats and that we have a tendency to rationalize it by saying we're just "being open and honest". I also recommend "Men Like Women Who Like Themselves".

This is the Rules applied to the web. So if you've read the original rules, all their advice applies here via online. Again we're dealt with common sense advice, that was dished out on the Rules, except this time you'll hear "don't date a guy without a photo." Its obvious that the authors are writing it just to make money and btw, isn't the author in divorce court? I believe so, and why would you want to take advice from someone that's divorcing? Enough said.

Just because we're living in an age of technology doesn't mean men and women have changed. Men still like a challenge; if you are being too accessible to them online, then the thrill of the chase is over. Even in online dating, there are RULES. The authors help you learn how to be mysterious, even though you are posting personal data online. And for the naysayers, THE RULES are not about tricking men, but about being true to yourself. Don't you want to be cherished? Don't you want to be the most special person in your man's life? Then read THE RULES books (especially the first one) and start practicing THE RULES today.

I think this is a natural addition to Sherrie and Ellen's previous books. Their concept of the Rules absolutely improves dating.. if you're serious about looking for Mr. Right. It's the best reference so you don't waste your time on-line with Mr. Wrong. I think you still need their first book, The Rules, to reinforce the Rules when you meet your on-line guy.

I read THE RULES about 5 years ago when I was dating, upon the advice of several friends who were tired, bored, and frustrated with my breathless tales of relationships gone awry. Now I recommend the book to single female friends in search of a devoted, loyal mate.

Yes, the book offends politically-correct notions of feminine liberation, suggesting that women play coy games to trap guileless males who can't read bestsellers like THE RULES themselves.

But beneath the facially dated advice is wisdom based on science. I recently suggested that a gal pal read the book when she complained of feeling insecure with her current date. She's a powerful, intelligent woman who enjoys her independence...but feels a lot of competition in the mate market. I'm not sure she will read THE RULES, but she suggested that I share my perspective with prospective book buyers:

"If THE RULES and social biologists are correct, that men are driven to select women they've pursued, then what is it that women need?

In a word--SECURITY.

We need a man whom we trust will RETURN TO THE NEST, THE CAVE, AFTER HE GOES OUT TO HUNT FOOD. A man who will come home! We need a provider of SECURITY. It's as much psychological as physical these days, of course, with women being pretty self-sufficient.

But I think we still want to FEEL that our man TREASURES us, his home, enough to always want to come back. We want to KNOW his loyalty and devotion to US.

And that's where THE RULES fit science.

Not only do you want and deserve a mate who thinks you are THE BEST, HIS QUEEN, etc....but you NEED that....to feel secure.

It's not just an individual's personal insecurity that enters courtship. If the guy isn't communicating his devotion to you by letting you know that YOU ARE INCREDIBLY SPECIAL TO HIM in a UNIQUE way, then you will inevitably suspect he'll wander on his hunt.

that's just our biology. We NEED a man who is devoted to US. And allegedly men PRIZE the women they think they CAUGHT after a PURSUIT. The kind of "mysterious creature" described in THE RULES.

So it's not a one-way trick where a woman gives up her integrity to play stupid games to trap a man. It's the way women find a man who will RECOGNIZE us as the ONE person worthy of his special appreciation...and devotion. So we can lose the damn insecurity we feel as females.

...course, we all know now that women can be quite happy WITHOUT men, too. They need us a lot more than we need them. Remember that, too! ; ) "

As a feminist, as a young (mid-20s) educated Internet Professional, as a manager, I thought the idea of the rules, ridiculous. But one day while I was in a bookstore, this controversial book caught my eye. I picked it up to read because I was wondering what kind of rubbish desperate women in the world was buying into. To my horror and surprise, the rules spoke loudly and clearly to me about the mistakes I knew I was making and gave me some very serious pointers of behavior that I was searching the answer to!

So what is so special about this book? The premise that men chase women, and that we are looking for husbands can be ignored, and understandably offensive, but what the rules is, (although the authors probably don¡¦t even know this themselves) is a good reference in how to prevent yourself falling too fast and getting hurt because you have given out so much to a man that a) isn¡¦t interested in you, b) is not capable of loving you the right way, c) just a plain jerk. Too many times I have watched myself and my friends quickly shack up with a man who were the above if not all three, but have put so much effort and investment into the relationship that we were unable to let go!

How do you dump the jerk when you have already told him about how painful your grandmother¡¦s death was for you? He has already met all your friends and family, and they all know you are in love with him.. You just can¡¦t break up.. even if he was the wrong man. You stick with it trying to make it work. Then afterwards when you have more wounds than sensible, you break up realizing you have made a terrible mistake and sit in a darkened room, thinking of your own stupidity? Sounds familiar?

This book is helping prevent it from happening again. It doesn¡¦t tell me how to erase those wounds, but by not chasing after a man, by not telling him everything about yourself straight away, these rules allow a logically slow progression to getting to know someone to make sure that he is the right one before you jump into sex, jump into emotional involvement.

Although this is not the premise of the book, these are what the rules allow you to do. My girlfriends and I have talked about not letting it happen so quickly a million times as we bemoan another bad choice in man, but it¡¦s been a long hard battle of finding the ¡§right way¡¨ to do it. The rules does just that.

I have been practicing the rules as it did for two weeks now, and was amazed by how differently I approached not only dating, but friendship, and co-workers. Instead of jumping head way into what *I* wanted, I waited to see what intentions the other person had. I saw a lot of people who I previously thought we ¡§something¡¨ in a different light and backed off. I stood in a bar and didn¡¦t stare at anyone I thought was interesting, instead watched one guy walk over and stood next to me. I over heard a conversation he had with his friend and realized he was a jerk! Had I done what I usually do, which is approach him with some funny remark, I would have missed his snide remark to his friend about some other woman in the bar.

Read this book, do the rules, but don¡¦t take the socio-biological and desperate seeking husband rhetoric too seriously or at all.

I first read THE RULES on a friend's recommendation in 1996, before it became a best-seller. I read it in one sitting; I couldn't put it down. The situations the authors described could have been taken from my own life. The advice made a lot of sense. And THE RULES REALLY WORK! I formed a RULES support group and I've watched as women in the group got engaged and married. I'm still single, but my relationships have been better since I read this book. It motivated me to improve my life in other ways, too. After first reading the book,I had some questions, so I wrote to the authors. They sent me a personal letter in response. I've met and spoken to Ellen Fein a few times and she is a sweet, intelligent woman who knows what it's like to pine over a man and truly wants to save other women from heartache. I find that most of the negative criticism this book has received came from people who did not read it all the way through. You can't just read the title of each chapter. The essence of this book is in the authors' explanations as to why each RULE works. I've read a few dating books, but this is the only one that actually changed my life. Instead of giving you useless, vague advice such as "love yourself," THE RULES provides you with specific actions you can perform. Five years after my first reading, I still believe in the book's philosophies and I still follow THE RULES.

I was expecting more of a diary type of book - what we did on our dates, where we went, etc. But this book focuses solely on the woman and has no space for the interactions between man and woman. Not recommended.

Chances are if you follow The Rules then you're going to end up with a pretty useless journal

Week 1
Monday Still no boyfriend
Tuesday Still no boyfriend
Wednesday Still no boyfriend
Thursday Still no boyfriend
Friday Still no boyfriend, signed up for horse riding class

Repeat ad infinitum

I think this book was great in defining dating rules. If you want a man to respect and love you, this is the book! Great work again to the authors!

Maybe these rules were the way back in the day of Father Knows Best, but times have changed since then-- there's been this concept known as womens lib! Seriously, I opened the book and scanned down the shortened versions of the rules and just laughed out loud-- even showed the hubby, who decided he 'liked this book!' because everything in it is about giving him his way and bending to him and caving to him. I read the whole book, just because I spent the money-- but I could not relate or agree to hardly any of it. What about marriage being an equal partnership? And what about both of you being responsible for making the relationship work? This book tries to tell you it's okay to be the ultimate doormat. Hated this book!

It depends somewhat, for who this book is helpful. There are many strong, somewhat reckless momen out there today, who think they can 'have it all'. These sex-in-the-city like women often blame men for their failures. For those women the rules are helpful to see the relationships more in balance. But they probably will hate the book the most too.
To women with an already pleasing attitude, it might do more harm, because it doesn't help much to boost their self-esteem.

I HAVE TO SAY.....I LOVE THE RULES. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE ELSE DOESN'T LIKE TO ADMIT IT...BUT I WILL FOR MYSELF AND FOR MY FRIENDS. I AM MARRIED AND ALWAYS LIKED THE RULES BUT THIS MARRIAGE BOOK HAS ABSOLUTELY BLOWN ME AWAY. I HAVE A WONDERFUL HUSBAND...BUT SOMETIMES HE CAN BE DIFFICULT. NOW I HAVE LEARNED THAT IF I LET HIM WIN, ACT AS IF WE ARE A TEAM, SAY WHAT I MEAN BUT NOT SAY IT MEANLY....I FEEL AS IF THIS BOOK GIVES ME SUPPORT FOR WHAT I SHOULD DO AND DON'T ALWAYS WANT TO DO. I HAVE TRIED IT THIS WHOLE WEEK AND HAVE ALREADY HAD UNBELIABLE RESULTS. THIS BOOK MAKES ME FEEL GREAT. MY FRIEND RECOMMENDED IT TO ME AND I THANK HER , AND ELLEN AND SHERRIE. AND ELLEN, YOU GO GIRL..... I HOPE YOU GET BACK WITH YOUR HUBBY!