A combination of hundreds of studies, insights from the work of scholars across several fields, clinical experiences and observations culled from literature across the ages makes for a fascinating, and helpful, journey into discovering what makes us fall in love with people. Reading this book was a liberating experience. The recommendations at the end of each chapter are quite amusing because of the way that they are worded.

This book outlines practical, theoric and statistical data that clearly show you how you might be imprisioned by your own patterns of choosing a lover. A real eye opener for me. You are able to understand the difficulty of past or current relationships through identifying your personality type and personal traumas so that you clearly see why you are drawn to the people who are your lovers. She also states that studies have shown, partners who are of unequal phyiscal attractiveness more often than not have unsuccessful long term relationships with one another. It all is seeming to make sense now, isn't it? A smart/academic and informative read. And just really fascinating.

Reading this book was truly life changing for me. It has a unique combination of what researchers have found in studies, and what the author has found from her doing couples therapy. I don't think I've ever read a book that helped me so much to understand my own longstanding patterns of the guys I end up with!! Who knew there was method to the madness!! Just wonderful, and highly recommended.

This book seemed to be aimed more at other therapists than at average people. The language, though readable, was full of clinical terms that made the content seem less relavent to me. It gave numerous examples of how different people react to different situations, but never really specifies how to solve "abnormal jealousy". The book's sub-title says "Causes, Symptoms, Cures", but I found no cures for my situation. There was only stuff on how to deal with normal jealousy that is caused by situations that are likely to arouse that emotion in most people (like one person cheating on another).

Yes jealousy is normal, I know that, it's a part of caring for someone. But how do you deal with someone who is very possessive? Who sees intimate relationships with others when there is none? This book doesn't deal with any of that. It's chock full of information about jealousy in general, but this book was of no use to me whatsoever.

Jealousy is probably one of the most-asked-about situations on my website. Either guys are jealous of their girlfriends going and talking to other guys, or girls are jealous about the attention their guys get when they're out, or girls are trying to make their guys jealous so they start getting paid attention to ... the list goes on and on.

What makes jealousy so powerful? How can it be such a destructive force in a relationship, when many times it's not even based on any 'real situation'?

This book is a HUGE help when looking at jealousy. Whether you tend to be a bit too jealous yourself, or whether you're dealing with a partner who tends to be overjealous of you, the book gives real life examples of situations, and practical advice on how to deal with them.

Just about every relationship has run into jealousy problems at one point or another. They CAN be worked through. I highly suggest this book as a great way to help improve your own relationship.

I came to this book after reading "Falling in Love," Pines' newest book. I LOVED "Falling in Love" (no pun intended!) so I decided to try this book out. Once again, I was totally shaken and amazed to discover how things she was writing about related to me and my life - they were things that made intuitive sense the minute I read them, but never occured to me before. Reading Pines' books is like one big "Eureka!!" experience. Highly recommended!!