I first encountered this book shortly after it was published, and rediscovered it online at Amazon.com about two years ago.

Unfortunately, I liked the book so much, I kept loaning out my first copy, with the result that it finally was not returned to me.

The book is written for women, but might in some circumstances apply to a man's situation as well. It breaks out of the conventional mold, which might be that one should communicate effectively, listen actively and empathetically, etc. Instead, the book analyzes the relationship factors which abet and maintain insensitivity in a partner, and offers practical strategies for provoking sensitive responses by behaving sometimes paradoxically or unpredictably.

The aim is relationship improvement. The strategies are backed up be a wealth of anecdotes and experiential support.

I recommend this book for people who are struggling in a difficult relationship with a person they love.