As someone who has 'rebuilt her sense of self' after a difficult marriage breakdown, Nancy's book came into my life at precisely the right moment. It is brimming with energy and ideas to assist one on the path to self-realization. Even if you've read through it in its entirety, you'll find you turn to it again and again and find something new each time you do.

I am truly blessed to get to work with Nancy in person. However, I have read this book and given it to friends who've had nothing but the highest praise for it. One friend in particular announced that upon meeting a potential therapist, he would insist on having the doctor read it. The exercises within the book have helped me tremendously. I think so many of us are trying to be more aware of the grace within day to day life, Nancy's book is a beautiful tool for anyone on this path.

I did not actually finish this book. I tried. I found it ridiculous, poorly written, and full of whining; many people written about in the book (from what I did read) did not actually have serious problems in the first place. If your biggest problem from childhood is that your parents didn't give you enough "attention", and if your entire adult identity is of being "wounded" or "damaged", and if your second career is being in therapy twice a week, then this book might be for you. If you're tough and intelligent and independent, do not bother with this book.

Sometimes daily life feels like climbing a hill through molasses. Even those who don't have MPD may have inner children (teenagers, pseudo-adults) who seem to be at war with each other, or extreme emotional reactions left over from childhood. This book has a wealth of strategies for soothing those inner selves in the context of the demands of daily living. If that was all, that would be enough for me to recommend this book, because I don't know of another book on the market that deals with practical strategies for daily life in terms of these inner selves (with suggestions for those who do have MPD). But I also appreciate the empathetic tone of the book. Sometimes that kind of tone, however well-meant, can come off as sappy or condescending, but I felt that here it was warm and sincere. I'd also like to recommend two other books: "How to Love Yourself When You Don't Know How" and "Internal Family Systems Therapy." Both are wonderful books about these inner selves and how they function in us. And while they don't deal with the day-to-day struggles and strategies that this book does, they are also resources for exploring the subpersonality issues that affect so many of us.

I found this book so informative and helpful. Having PTSD from every kind of child abuse really does make it difficult to get through the day. This is a continous help to me.