An unbelievable exploration into the subtleties of the consciousness of couples. Buy this book!

This book was below my expectations considering such a topic as intimate relationships and the such. It's a decent read, if it were simplified. It seems the author tries to outdo himself with his penmenship. What it boils down to is that love is power, but then again, everything centers around power and some of the things that might perk your interest is stuff we really already know anyway.

The title of this book looks promising to readers who are interested in studying interpersonal psychology, and the book claims in particular to deal with the effects that previous abuse can have on a relationship. But the author falls far short of his stated goals. The pages are sparsely gilded with common-sense pop psychology, and these "discoveries" are "supported" by contemporary cases from the media; only a handful of cases are recycled throughout the book. Plenty of quality books exist on this book's alleged subject; seek out those books and don't bother with this lightweight.

For those of us who believe that great loves and partnerships are life's most valuable treasure ... this can be one hell of a scary book ;) He does a great job of pointing out the pitfalls built in to our modern concept of a "R-R-R-Relationship" (capital and quotes emphasized). You will recognize the symptoms and patterns he points out in society as a whole, in your family, your friends, and (painfully) even yourself. He's so brutally pessimistic in tone he doesn't leave much hope. However, looking at things with eyes wide open, as they are, is the first step toward recognizing these obtacles and pitfalls within ourselves (in my opinion) ... and thats our best chance of taking responsibility for it and changing it. This is where the hope lies. As long as you don't let it depress you (lol) ... this one is a must read. Besides, his metaphors are hilarious: they rule :) He loses a star for the pessimism - he could lighten up a tad ...