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It is written by fellow travelers that have all the dark corners and blazing heights as the rest of us all too often confused pilgrims. The difference is that they have had the discipline, perseverance, and single-minded focus that all too many of us don't seem to muster in large enough doses. They have taken their innate intelligence and expanded it into understanding and wisdom sprinkled with wit, insight, and compassion.
Read this book!


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I've met someone, he's terrific, and I'm feeling much more confident that things will work out. Or at least, I will be more aware of what I am doing and the end result will be one of understanding rather than confusion and hurt.
Every failed relationship in my life, and there have been a few, had one thing in common - Me! That's not to say that it's been my fault, but the book enables you to look at those relationships, understand them, and utilize that knowledge to make the next one that much better.





I loved this book.

Then my girlfriend began talking about the Kama Sutra and i remembered that I had this book. Over semester break, I read it and so did my girlfriend and all I can say is - I learned more than I ever imagined about sex and how to talk about problems in a relationship. This book was great. And sex is better than I ever dreamed.


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He details the theory which is mainly based on psychoanalytical theorizing. His approach is quite interesting to read as you will discover the "roots" of some of your marriage problems and will gain greater insight.
But insight alonen won't solve your problems. Therefore, the author presents 16 exercises, which you can do together with your spouse to work on your relationship. These are highly interesting and revealing.
What's really missing in this book is an integration of modern research findings into the dynamics of relationships. So read this book, but also read the book by J. Gottman: "The 7 principles for making marriage work"

Essentially (according to the book), when you are born you are bombarded with a bunch of symbolic knowledge that helps you form your sense of self or what you "think" your sense of self is. When you are an infant not much of the world influences you, but as you get older pretty much everything does, one way or another, and we are pulled away... from what you could call... Your highest potential and happy blissful self.
So you go out in the world some what traumatised/molded by the events of your past. Granted these "events" do not have to be perticularly painful, or troubled in some dramatic form. Just simply symbolic... For instance... As a child if your mother encouraged you to view the room across the hall, you may gather that the world is a safe place to explore and you have loved ones looking out for you when you get back. Or if your mother sheltered you or told you to always stay near her, you may learn the world is not a safe place to explore and that the needs of others are more important then your own curiousity.
Simple but effective!
So with our suppresed curiousities and what other unmet needs we had as children... we go looking for someone who embodies the "dominent" traits of our caregivers. To re-enact the trials we had as children to HEAL ourselves.
The problem with this is, as much as we need to heal... a part of us (the old ego) wants these things like a child would want them... very selfishly at times, and demanding. That we begain to see our partners as slaves to our desires. We blame them for not making our world perfect (consiously or unconsiously)... because we forget that they are individuals as well. The power struggle begains...
A lot of our problems, that we think the spouse/significant other is responsible for, are really the problems we are guilty of ourselves. I found this to be the hardest truth yet. But the book doesnt completely blame the reader, but gives revealing insight to why our loved one is acting the way they are based on their past and what unmet needs they have.
Granted this book gets very detailed. Which it should! Its a deep read but very compelling. The author explains things in steps so youre not thrown under the tow of all the psychological concepts. However, not ONLY does the author tell you HOW you got here in the first place, but what YOU and your partner can do about it.
The book never gets boring... I stopped reading it about mid-way becuase I thought, why read any further... My relationship is over, why would I want to go into the parts about how to fix it. I will tell you why, after continuing my reading, I got more then I bargained for, learning more about myself and my ex. Even though I cant perticularly "fix" anything (because he's a bit unwilling to take those steps) I understand WHY and Im at better peace because of it. The healing process can be slow and difficult but I think it is possible especially when you have the knowledge this book contains and the will of you and your partner to do so.

We marry often by chance or peer pressure and live to wonder how "we got into this."
Hendrix shows us how to meet our own legitimate needs and understand how to meet our partners'.
In the end we cannot badger our partner into changing or loving us.
It is us who must change and in doing so we change the conduct of our partner.
We need to understand both, but work on ourselves.
Any one who feels stress in any relationship should read and understand the "imago" and our limbic brains use of it.
As Tina Turner says, "Whats love got to do with it,...its just a second hand emotion"
Well she half right. Visceral love has a lot to do with who we married, but mature love has as much to do with staying married.
Dr Hendrix is terrific.

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I know there are many Harville fans out there, but if you've already spent years in therapy, you've "gotten over" your rotten childhood. Harville's books promote victimization and entitlement.



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Getting the Love You Want was short and to the point. I think this book, Giving the Love that Heals, could have been 1/3 the length of what it is. We are a busy people, and shouldn't have to put up with writing that says nothing. This drives me crazy!
I am sure there is something worthwhile in the book, but believe me, you have to skim it quickly to get to those points.

Nicole Flowers

My favorite parts of the book are the detailed explanations of the chronological stages of a child's life; the explanation and examples of symbiotic parenting; and the explanation of how we learn to parent how are parents parented us, which is how they were parented, ad infinitum, with the assurance that we can break the cycle of mistakes.
This is a book for parents who are committed to helping their children navigate through life, even though it requires some self-discovery. It is not a book for a parent who wants a quick solution, because this requires commitment. For me, the healing that resulted in myself, my child and our relationship went far beyond what I was asking for, making the commitment a bargain at any price.

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