This excellent book is not only easy to read AND to understand, but also it made me feel as if the author had been a fly on my wall for years. Dr. Frain has obviously seen it all as is evidenced by her insight into problems that I thought were so specific to my situation.

The techniques outlined in this book were literally my roadmap back to my daughter who had been estranged from me for too many painful years, years without seeing my daughter or my wonderful grandchildren. By completing the written exercises in the book, I realized how much that times have changed. I was so much more able to understand how "it got to this". I got a bigger picture of my own family history, and also a better idea of how cultural changes put so much pressure on my daughters.

I learned a lot about my own fears, too, through this book and all its valuable exercises. In fact, that is what gave me the understanding and the strength to honor my daughter's needs without feeling like I was selling myself out. I was fearful mainly because I just did not understand the changes - not because I was wrong or that my daughter was wrong. That was a big hump to get over for me, but by doing so, I NOW HAVE MY DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILDREN BACK!!

I purchased this book because I am the parent of a young adult and interested in the guidance this title promised. It was all I had hoped for...and more! This book is well written, practical, and insightful. Family vignettes and personal exercises throughout the book enhance its step by step approach by fostering practical application of the suggestions. An unanticipated bonus is that it served me equally well as an "adult child" , offering perspectives and actions that afforded me the opportunity to enrich my relationship with my own parents. I have given and recommended this book to many family members and friends. Frain and Clegg have made a wonderful contribution!

It is evident that the authors are experienced, intelligent, loving, and insighful. It is such a joy to read about subjects that are long neglected in our society. Thank you Betty and Eileen!