I own everything written by either Arnold Lazarus, Phd or Allen Fay, MD. Their best ...are the books they did together. This book is a gem. No shrink, patient or psychology student should be without it!

The authors have distilled from thousands of therapy sessions some truly effective healthy philosophies. It's a quick read which delegitimizes some common irrationalities and gets to the heart of the self-help matter. A good extension of REBT and CBT ideas...addresses disturbance-causing beliefs head-on. You won't regret buying it. A welcome change from all the crappy psych books out there!

This book is terrific! It helped me realize that I was poisoning my happiness with my own thinking. More importantly, it gave me the remedies I needed for achieving a more balanced outlook and better mental health.

Most of us have a life filled with myths (e.g. its important to be right, other people are happy, don't hide your anger). This book takes on some of the most common myths...and provides another way to look at them. Its written by two of the most famous living therapists... a psychologist and psychiatrist who are both masters. Its easy to read and truly life changing. There aren't many books I can say that about. The book was a best seller in an earlier edition (in the 1980s) and went out of print. I assume this new publisher bought the rights. I'm really happy its back in print. Its a classic.This has long been one of my favorite books. Do not miss it!

My feeling is that most "self help" books, in reality, are the authors helping themselves to the reader's money. With that as my overall opinion I decidedly was not excited when my girlfriend insisted I get a copy of "Making it as a Couple." I agreed to read it only to make her happy. However, after reading just the first dozen or so pages, I was really impressed. I stayed up and finished the book in one night.

It is spectacular!

Fay's insights, principals, and ideas are BRILLIANT! The book has no shrink-double talk and no Freudian bull**** or touchy-feelie filler. Instead each and every page has at least one very real, genuinely creative, unique, and practical ideas on what to do when there's problems in a relationship. I can't say Arlene (my girlfriend) and I now live in perfect relationship bliss. BUT this book did help uncover our major problems and (MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL) told us SPECIFICALLY how we could solve them! In fact, things are the best they have ever been with us. The shrink that wrote the book (Fay) helped us more (without ever meeting us) than a local psychiatrist/so-called relationship expert that I paid over $1,000.00 to for nine office visits. The book is an undiscovered gem. If I sound like I'm wild about this book--- that's true. I can't say enough good stuff about it.

With this book and a few hours I think any couple can solve their own problems ...or at least get a good idea if they are solvable. We spent two hours a week AS A COUPLE using the book's relationship tools. The techniques given might at first seem crazy. But upon reflection and use you'll see they work. In fact we have gone months without a fight (in the past ... every week had at least one big blowup). Now we seriously talking about getting married! I can't recommend this book highly enough. I know I sounds like one of those morons on Oprah-Jerry-Ricky ... but the truth is the book really changed my life! I can only say that about one other book (and that's my bankbook).

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