Years ago I read this book after the break up with my first girlfriend. I was able to let go and move on with my life in a couple months.

Then I had another girlfriend and broke up, but did not read the book or apply the techniques. I thought about her for years.

Now I am reading the book again after the break up of a 7 year relationship. I feel so much better after following the advice in Letting Go. This book is the closest thing to a cure for a broken heart.

Thanks Dr. Tracy and Dr. Wanderer!

Letting Go is one of the best self help books on the market today. It takes you through all of the steps of the sadness you feel when you are rejected by someone you love. It justifies all of the emotions that you really do feel, and it makes you realize that you are human and that you are not crazy. I would suggest this book to anyone who is going through the loss of a loved one through a breakup, it will really help them overcome the monotany of the feelings of sadness and rejection

Letting Go is one of the best self help books on the market today. It takes you through all of the steps of the sadness you feel when you are rejected by someone you love. It justifies all of the emotions that you really do feel, and it makes you realize that you are human and that you are not crazy. I would suggest this book to anyone who is going through the loss of a loved one through a breakup, it will really help them overcome the feelings of sadness and rejection. Along with another book"HE NEVER CALLED AGAIN", these two will be on my book shelf.

This book, though written for a female audience can be used by sexes with simular success.However one needs to understand that Ms. Cabots book was written and published for a wide distribution and like most self help books it overlooks many areas of human behavioral complexity that one will encounter in any attempts to persuade or influence. This book will serve as a good introduction to nlp and romance creation. The most important point(in this book) that one can learn is that romance, love, lust happens through a process that one can learn and repeat over and over (if one so desires). If one uses techniques of this book they will certainly empower their chances of creating a romantic relationship,but it will on a hit and miss basis because more knowledge and training will be needed (as already mentioned). Another good beginners book is Intant Rapport by Michael Brooks. It deals with the same subject in more detail. For those desiring even more training in applied nlp they could look up essential-skills on their search engine. I beleive Ms Cabot also teaches seminars in those areas. I know these techniques work as I have used them with success. Happy hunting Art

As a former trainer in NLP for 7 years I've always been impressed with how effective these techniques are for creating internal change (habits, behaviors, disciplines, overcoming fears, sales, etc.)

But the ability to create change in other people (like getting a man to fall in love with you) is something that I believe from my experience in the field almost no one can achieve on their own with NLP.

I wrote my fishy relationship/self-help book because I saw how different the real works as opposed to the NLP-seminar-John Gray-Tony Robbins models. That experience came from dating in Southern California and going on a lot of cruises and Club Med vacations.

What I found is that people who try to use NLP techniques come across as being weird. It also has a strange way of messing with the natural karma of love. For whatever reason, when you try to get someone else to fall in love with you through an organized skill set like this, it has a way of ruining the magic for yourself.

What is important to know from Tracy's book are the general concepts of sensory acuity and anchoring. Sensory acuity comes in handy when you recognize when you get an instant negative reaction (like bad breath, body odor, unappealing voice, talk too fast, talk too loud, talk too slow, talk too much). These things cause a person to be out of rapport. Which means an unconscious bad first impression.

Anchoring has to do with creating stirring memories or special moments. This book is about the mechanics of creating those moments which is all right, but the average person needs to feel it come naturally from within.

If a woman really wants to know how to get a man to fall in love, she must first maximize her own feminine allure (Being a Woman by Dr. Toni Grant) and then make her contacts and develop relationships. Dr. Cabot's work will help you with identifying technical mistakes, but not some much about having more to give (variety, intensity, heart), cleansing the spirit, and understanding and appreciating a love partner.

As an author, NLP trainer, and semi-relationship expert, I think that this book addresses the 20% of mechanics when it's done right (a very difficult task without years of training and integration...not just in a simple reading of a book!) But what most people really need is the 80% of how loving relationships work from within on the emotional-spiritual world.

My advice here is to enjoy this book and become more aware of instant triggers, but don't get carried away and become a weirdo!

Weirdness spooks men away quickly!

Remember that love is far more spiritual than mechanical.

I read Tracy Cabot's book, How To Make a Man Fall In Love With You, years ago, when I was 15 years younger, and always looking for the "answer" to learning how to bridge the Mars vs Venus gap, though I didn't have a name for the gap back then. Like another reviewer who talks about the three modes from which we communicate and respond, which are visually, auditorially, and kinesthetically, I had studied Neuro Linguistic Programming, among other studies in an attempt to strengthen my communication skills. Fifteen years later, as an adult educator, I often recommend Tracy Cabot's book in my classes on communication, because I believe that it is a simple way to learn this marvelous technique for communicating not only between the two sexes, but between any two human beings. Where else can you find so many wonderful tips on communication in such an inexpensive, easy to read, little package? I just wish that Tracy would put together a wonderful training video on these skills.

You better stay on guard while reading the book. Remember that the person who's giving you advice on being successful with women is herself a woman - so you can't expect her to have such an understanding for your needs as a man would. The book doesn't tell you how to get the largest possible number of women into bed with the least possible effort. This is rather a book on understanding women and treating them the way they wish.

A one-sentence summary of Mrs. Cabot's theory would be this: You have to be exactly like the woman wants you to be, give her everything she needs - and then she will fall in love with you.

Well, how about my individuality, you may ask. That's a good question. Of course, you can't hope to be successful with the stupid "take me as I am or go to hell" attitude. On the other hand, I don't believe that success gained through complete self-denial can make you happy either. (Though it might make the women happy - I guess that's quite all right with Mrs. Cabot.) Thus, I advise you to use the book to gain some valuable knowledge on women, but do not feel that you have to accept and approve everything Mrs. Cabot is telling you.

The best part of this book is the chapter where Mrs. Cabot tells about three types of personalities - visual, acoustic and kinesthetic. I consider this extremely valuable knowledge which can be used to great benefit not only in romance, but in different life situations with different people. It's a true eye-opener - you start to understand why some people act and react in a totally weird way sometimes. That alone makes the book worth reading.

Summary: This book can give you some help in your attempts to be successful with women, but it's probably not quite what you need.

Considering that the book is titled "How To Win The Woman You Want." and not "How To Get All The Women You Want Into Bed" the reviewer below should have realized what he wouldn't be getting from this book. I agree that the information on the three different personality types is the most interesting part of the book. The problem is that I have found most women to be a combination of all three types and it's a bit more complicated to pin them down than was suggested by Cabot. If you want to get as many women into bed with you with the least amount of effort, there is no need to buy a book. Lowering your standards would be the most effective technique for achieving that lofty and admirable goal. It never ceases to amaze me that men who just want to get laid, continue to pursue attractive, intelligent women with self respect who are obviously looking for a relationship instead of going after the party girls who would happy to jump in the sack. Then they wonder why they have a problem.